Abusive Spouse
Today’s society, unlike in the past, is becoming more and more aware of spouse abuse. An abusive spouse can be of either gender, male or female although most often than never it is the men who are the abuser and the women who are the abused. The behavior of an abusive spouse is very different in a relationship and he/she would normally be a very difficult individual to classify, however more commonly they display both emotional and physical abuse. Verbal humiliation, demeaning their partner and neglect are forms of emotional abuse whilst physical abuse involves acts such as threats,slapping,shoving and physical assault.
How does an abusive spouse get carried into such a behavioral pattern some wonder? Well, they are propelled by feelings of insecurity and impotence making them falsely believe that they are in control which overstates their self-importance. This would result in jealousy or unhealthy possessiveness towards the other partner which would also seem rather as an unintentional act of love.There is certainly a difference between ordinary marital disagreements and cruel verbal, emotional and physical abuse that is sometimes seen by the victims as a marital duty. As always there is an amount of verbal conflict that in unavoidable in a marriage relationship but there are certain boundaries that have to be kept in mind during a marital conflict.
As husband and wife, they are supposed to care, love and respect each other. Treating their partner like a slave and carrying all the weight in a relationship shouldn’t be accepted; neither should repression and cruelty in a marriage. Recognizing the issue in an abusive spouse is the first step to being aware in the relationship.Refusing the feeling and instincts of an abusive spouse will only hurt yourself.You should determine the reasons why you have allowed yourself to be verbally and emotionally abused by your spouse and you should make that take control of your relationship.Consider the reasoning behind your surrender to such inexcusable treatment.
In addition, family and children may also be adversely affected by an abusive spouse. People who live with an abusive spouse are generally isolated from friends and family and most often keep to themselves due to their controlling spouses.Children who come from a family with an abusive spouse display characteristics such as poor academic performance, depression,fear, guilt, hostility and irritability. There is a high tendency in children ,even the ones who were not abused themselves by the abusive spouse, to commit violent crimes and engage in antisocial behavior in the future.
Leaving an abusive relationship is the best thing to do for the betterment of your family and children.
