Coping With Jealousy The Right Way
Jealousy is a powerful thing that can turn best friends and family against one another. Often it can happen fast and it can crop up at unexpected moments. Coping with jealousy is difficult, but if you know what to look out for you can do something about it.
A lot of times, people project their insecurity onto others as when they feel insecure about what themselves. For example, if you have more intelligence than other people, someone might become jealous of it. They might think of you as cocky, when in reality they just feel insecure that they aren’t as smart as you.
Your goal should be to try and solve this problem as soon as you can. This is because eventually the person will begin to dislike you, since you embody their own insecurity. Problems that are allowed to fester rather than being nipped in the bud are never a good idea. The other person may also begin to distance themselves from you, meaning you would be losing a good friend.
This can also creates tons of problems later on, especially if your friend is knows a lot of the same people you do. They might begin to say mean and sometimes false things about you. If you start solving this problem you can then help him or her also. This is because they can begin to look at their own insecurities and try to resolve them.
The best way to do this is to have a discussion with the person asking them why they think you are cocky. This is because they will have a hard time admitting to you that they are actually jealous of you, they want it to seem like you have some negative attribute. You have to ask them for concrete evidence and if they cannot provide any, show them their logic is flawed.
No matter how he or she responds tell them that they are as smart as you. In doing so, you are able to relieve some of the insecurities they feel. You also show them you are a nice person, hopefully make him or her reconsider the cockiness trait they perceived.
February 12th, 2011 at 2:47 am
I care for my own boyfriend sooo much and furthermore he is indeed awesome for me. I appreciate just about everything close to him. The only problem though, is he is friends with too many females and I hate knowing that he is talking to numerous girls besides me. I hate being jealous. I’m trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can’t. Please help me out. Thanks.