Are you in pain or do you know someone who has just lost a boyfriend? Well this is probably the hardest situation to be faced with. In such a case you probably need to hear encouragement words from someone who cares.

You need to understand that the grieving process has some certain steps or feelings. Allow me to go through a few of these – hopefully you will realise that you are not alone and you are on your way to healing.

Disbelief

The initial feeling that comes when you hear the sad news is that of disbelief. This is especially true when you have just been talking to your boyfriend a few moments ago. This initial feeling may last for a couple of hours and sometimes days. In most occasions it lasts up to the day of the funeral.

Shock

In most cases shock is triggered by seeing the person actually dead. In most cases this happens at the funeral after reality strikes. Being shocked is an inevitable feeling after reality strikes. Compared to the other emotions, it is easy to get through this one.

Anger

You may be angry at the world, at people who were there when this happened or at yourself. If you do not properly manage anger, it can get really destructive. It is important to be careful about what you say and think during this time. Look into the internet for some daily words of encouragement to help you cope.

Pain

Here is one feeling that never seems to go away. It required you to constantly hear some words of encouragement. This is a really harsh feeling. I mean it just sticks in there and does not seem to ever end. Although it may take longer but eventually it dies. I don’t mean to say you forget what happened but you simply are able to live without feeling bad all the time.

When you are in pain you may feel helpless and even regret some doing or not doing something. No matter what you go through, no matter the years you spend grieving, the pain due to the loss of your boyfriend does go away eventually.

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