Making Up After Being Too Bossy
Were you too controlling in your relationship? Did he/she kick you out because you smothered them, were too bossy and demanding? Did you have to know where they were at all times and try to make them spend their free time with you? Were you too much in control? You can learn more about how to get your ex back here.
Doing these kinds of things should cause a healthy person like your ex to hit the eject button on your relationship. After a short while controlling behaviors smother your mate and they lose their interest in being with you quickly.
Now you want to get your ex back in your life hopefully without the whole controlling thing. What, if anything, can you do to get them back?
The answer, honestly, is that it depends. Some controllers created too much pain for their ex to ever take them back. Some controllers will need therapy before they can really expect to have any healthy relationship. Confusing power over with love will destroy the intimacy in any relationship.
Hopefully their kicking you out has awakened you some. People get into relationships for play, love and intimacy, not to be dominated and controlled in the name of love. So if you have learned something from being kicked out, if you can understand how what you did wronged your mate and if truly feel that you dont need to do some of those things again, that is a first important step, and you have a chance to get your ex back.
The key is to have learned from being kicked out of the relationship. If you really understand the damage you caused and believe you don’t need to do those things again, you may have a real opportunity to get your ex back. You can get a complete system for how to get your ex back here.
The next step is to have a particular kind of apology conversation with your ex. Your behavior caused them damage. You will need to own up to the damage you caused. You will then need to let them vent, to listen as they let you know how what you did made them feel. Finally, you will need to convince them that you have learned from them and what they told you, and you wont repeat that behavior. If you can do those things, you may actually have a chance to get your ex back.
There is much greater detail to these steps than we have room for here. But learning from your mistakes and convincing them of some of what you’ve learned can go a long way towards getting your ex back, or at least create some room for them to consider trying a date or two with you again. Go here for a free course on Love And Intimacy Help.
