Some people can get involved in a rebound relationship even when still residing at home, by keeping the relationship secret. So what can you do to win them back in your life?

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Rebound relationships occur after what one partner believes to be a “tipping point” in a long term relationship, maybe due to a disagreement, or persistant feelings of disappointment with that relationship, often because of poor communication. They either willingly seeks to have an affair, or allows themself to be swept off their feet by a someone else who holds out promises of happiness beyond what they believe they will experience with their current partner.

Or is it that you pushed them away them and they’re dating someone else to stop thinking about you.

When a relationship is built on love, the intrinsic nature of a rebound relationship is such that it’s not necessarily true that the love has vanished and that therefore the relationship is beyond saving – far from it.

So what do you do? Terminating a relationship is emotionally and physically exhausting, so at first just have some time to yourself (the reason for this will become apparent as we go on), and don’t beat yourself up, you need to stay cool at this time.

Next you have to think about your options, there being two, the first of which being to go and start a rebound relationship of your own, as long as you prepare for complications further on up the road.

Whilst this may not feel like a time for high theory, consider the following:

A relationship goes through four phases prior to becoming established. The Forming phase, the Storming period, the Norming period and finally the Performing phase when the relationship takes off.

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The periods listed aboove are self explanatory – you come across someone and start an affair, you then maybe discover some of their less appealing characteristics, maybe even fall out for a bit, then maybe if, taking everything into consideration that person is OK (remember we’re referring to a rebound relationship here, not a fairy tale romance) we go ahead with it, (norming) and as time passes, and if we stay together, we move forward in it (performing).

Are you beginning to understand? Can you see the reason I’m suggesting you to get some rest? It’s to allow your ex some space, and to let them to get to the “storming” phase of their rebound relationship.

The type of character your ex will “rebound” into is often the reverse of you. If your a professional, they may be a laborer. You need to take this information and consider it. Restyle your image a tad.

The storming period in a rebound relationship is often the end of their tryst. This is the phase you have been waiting for, the time when your ex recognises what they had with you on a deeper level, and that they want to be with you.

Be masterful yet soft – don’t start blaming your ex for the affair, just accept it, take it on board and move forward. It’s no good to attempt to get them to realize that you are the love of their life, or be over apologetic, that’s for them to decide. Simply be yourself!

Talking (or not talking!), is often the single cause as to why older relationships run into trouble. Be certain, as you get back together, that you make time to talk (and listen!) to each other. Lack of talking and listening usually leads to separate lives.

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