Relationship Advice for Real Men
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… Contrary to widely held finding love advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to make a bad first impression and send her packing.
Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that make you feel comfortable? I don’t think so. The love advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.
It’s more prevalent than ever for a real man to speak his mind and communicate openly from her heart. Open communication is a valuable trait and a turn on for most women.
Whether you’re looking for casual dating or someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Relationship Advice for Dating the most important thing to know is what you want.
1. Knowing What You Want
What’s important to you? Get clear about what those qualities are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is he funny, does she think you’re funny? Is it important to you that he likes sports? Is she interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?
When you have an idea about what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when he’s] the right one.
2. Be Flexible
When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you’d be surprised on how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m proposing that you stay curious about ‘what if he’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.
3. Let Go of the HOW
When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.
4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet
That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.
When you’re looking, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.
